Threesome To Foursomes
Let me start off by giving you a little background information on mine and my husbands background. We have been married for 14 years, after meeting at university whilst on the same course.
Things quickly took off, and now, more than a decade down the line, we couldn’t be happier with our home and sex lives. I personally believe this is due to our involvement in a rather taboo subject: threesomes!
However not too long ago, me and my hubby were getting a strong (belated!) case of the ‘honeymoon blues*. Sex just wasn’t as exciting as it used to be, and after the arrival of our two children, I was beginning to lose my sex-drive, and starting to feel self conscious about my body.
My husband was understanding and caring, as always, but work stress and a hectic home life was wearing him down. I realised that a creative injection into our relationship would make us a better couple, and help with stress and confidence issues.
Once my husband was on board and we were both comfortable, i began to research into the field of ‘Group sex’. Whilst trying out numerous dating sites, and companies that specialise in setting up couples seeking couples and singles, I found that adult dating sites were most beneficial.
On their sites, i could put up a simple, discreet profile ad and had replies from real, honest people that were in a similar position to me. I found that on other, specialist dating websites, there would be all manner of people from young to old, that were not always friendly.
By far I recommend posting your own personal profile ad on a decent adult dating website as it filters out people that don’t have the same goal in mind, and lets you control who you talk to, and what information you give.
So, fast forward a few months onward, and my husband and I go out to meet our ‘first date’ – a divorcee in her late 30s, who was very kind and relaxed, which helped us feel at ease too!
We spoke for a short while, and got some drinks to relax before we continued back home (the kids safely at my parents’ place). The clothes came off soon enough and we were pleased at how easy everything was; the sex was thrilling, fun and highly pleasurable.
My husband and I were very satisfied, we needed to have a lot of trust and respect for each other, to allow it to work, and it did. Besides being respectful to our third party, I felt we gained a strengthening in our relationship, trust and love for one another.
We were pleased to be comfortable with another person too, a much needed confidence boost for the both of us. Our third party was very understanding and experienced, she made the whole process enjoyable:
My husband was happy to have two women all over him, while I enjoyed pursuing some lesbian fantasies! The sex on the whole was the most fun we had experienced for a long time, it opened our eyes to new possibilities in the world of group sex and its benefits to monogamous relationships.
With our new-found confidence following this experience, we went back for more! We met up with numerous lovely characters who were looking for the same things as us: a simple, strings-free fling.
My husband and I tried things we’d never get the chance to experience otherwise and gained more sexual experience than we could of ever have hoped to gain on our own, all of which added to our confidence and helped us to find our niche in our sexuality.
To my husband’s surprise, I found that I was quite interested in finding another couple to engage in sex with: a foursome. After a quick advertisement in the dating site we use, we found yet more like minded people interested in what we were after.
The activity ran as smoothly as our first threesome encounter, and it was interesting to have two others, instead of just a singular man or woman. The power in the bedroom became masculine and less female orientated. It felt very primitive (not at all unpleasant), as if the men were trying to out do each other!
Yet again, we faced the rewarding challenge of trusting one another, as did the other couple, and because of the strength in our relationship, we were all able to enjoy the sex comfortably.
Moving on to the benefits: I feel as though this experience has improved our lives dramatically. Having threesomes and foursomes took the stress out of our daily lives, it gave us something to look forward to.
Plus, as an added bonus, our sexual encounters with others seems to have dramatically improved the sex we have with each other exclusively.
I feel as if I know my husband better than I ever did before. I found new ways to make him tick and pleasure him, as I’m sure he has with me.
Undoubtedly, this experience has been game-changing, and I highly recommend trying it yourself: the benefits are limitless.
Vicki & Carl